This program welcomes gay men, including both cis and trans men, who are attracted to men. We aim to create a supportive space for all participants who identify as men and who share the experience of same-gender attraction.

We believe that relationships at any given time are either dying or deepening. Without attention and commitment, all relationships drift into a spiral: withhold, withdraw, project. With attention and commitment, we can deepen relationships by doing the opposite: reveal, connect, own. By choosing to reveal, real connection becomes possible. We move away from managing perceptions and start to engage genuinely, appreciating both our own vulnerability and others'.

When it comes to how close we are to other people, only two factors are under our control. The first is how much of ourselves we reveal. The second is how much of the other person we accept and love. You can reveal courageously and accept completely and the other person might choose to not be close. This is reality. You can’t control the depth of your relationships. You can control you.

We learned this from Jim Dethmer, who goes into more detail here: https://conscious.is/blogs/avoid-the-withhold-withdraw-project-cycle-to-preserve-your-team-culture.

We believe that when we are "in integrity," we're energetically whole and fully alive. When you ask most people what integrity means, they'll usually say “doing the right thing,” which has a moral or ethical orientation. We're going back to the word integrity evolved from: integer, defined as "whole" or "complete," which has no moral or ethical connotations. We see integrity as energetic wholeness, which leads to full aliveness.

The Four Pillars of Integrity are (1) Radical Responsibility, (2) Feeling our Feelings, (3) Candor, and (4) Impeccable Agreements. Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks, The Hendricks Institute, is the creator of "The 4 Pillars of Integrity."

For more on aliveness, check out this episode of The Knowledge Project podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/161-jim-dethmer-the-pillars-of-integrity/id990149481?i=1000603098523

As kids, we all loved to play, but for many of us those days (and habits) feel like ancient history. We've lost touch with play. Often, we make things serious that don’t need to be serious — and by letting go of making everything so serious, we can return to our state of play. This isn't something we recommend intellectually strong-arming yourself into (e.g. “I need to play more video games) and it’s not about changing activities. It's about seeing that almost everything can become more like play. How can you land your next big project and have more fun along the way? How can you make laundry more playful?

Play is more than a thing we do. It’s a state of consciousness, and further — it's more entertaining than drama. It's worth noting that play is not the same as frivolity. It is not "so what?" or "who cares?" Play takes focus and intentionality. It's not just random activity. The more you play, the more you’ll keep playing.

Our thoughts here stem from The Conscious Leadership Group, and we dig their meditation on play and rest: https://soundcloud.com/consciousleadershipgroup/meditation-commitment-9

$5,000 per person

$500 earlybird discount applied to applications received by March 16.

-Three day in person retreat

-Private room at Guesthouse Lost River

-All of your delicious meals (from dinner on fri 5/2 through breakfast on 5/4)

-Six bi-weekly virtual group coaching calls via Zoom

-One 1x1 coaching call with Marc or George

-Slack community for asynchronous updates and cohort collaboration

No more than 16 participants will be admitted

No ma’am

I agree to:

• Take 100% responsibility for my physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well being throughout the program

• Stay curious in the face of all challenging feedback

• Attend the in-person retreat in full

• Participate in 1×1 monthly learning partner practices

• Spend a minimum of 30 minutes per week engaging with cohort content on Slack

• Participate from a location where virtual group sessions fall during daytime hours in your local timezone.

• Participate in at least five of the six virtual group sessions from an environment in which I can speak freely and keep my camera on

Mental Wellbeing Agreement 

• Should deeper psychological triggers get activated, I agree to take responsibility for getting outside support from a medical or psychological professional. I understand that this is not a therapy circle.
  

No. We find that this gets in the way of full expression. You’ll be exploring your edges and we’re committed to co-creating the most supportive environment possible.

Only if you’re willing to be radically candid and revealed with them. Otherwise, no - you wouldn’t get the full benefits of the experience. 

21.

No.

Yes — please contact us for more info.

Yes, we reserve a limited number of reduced-rate spots to those with financial constraints. Please contact us for more info.

We can provide you with confirmation of program completion, however we are not accredited by any outside certification organizations.

Yes, honey! You’ll be surprised and delighted. See details re: travel logistics below.

Approximate drive times from major cities to Guesthouse Lost River, 288 Settlers Valley Way, Lost River, WV 26810

• Washington, DC: 2.5 hours

• Baltimore, MD: 3 hours

• Philadelphia, PA: 4.5 hours

• New York City, NY: 5.5 hours

By Air

1. Washington Dulles International Airport (IAD)

   • Distance: 120 miles

   • Car rental services available at terminal

2. Ronald Reagan Washington National Airport (DCA)

   • Distance: 150 miles

   • Car rental services available at terminal

3. Shenandoah Valley Regional Airport (SHD)

   • Distance: 60 miles

   • Limited flight options, but closer to property

   • Car rental services available

Uber/Lyft is not recommended due to a limited number of drivers in the area.

Cell service may become limited in the final 30 minutes of your drive to the Lost River Valley. We recommend downloading offline maps in advance.

In order to arrive 5:00 PM, we strongly recommend planning your departure with extra time for Friday afternoon traffic, which can add 30-60 minutes to listed drive time estimates.

Yes — cohort contact info will be shared to facilitate carpooling if desired.